Day 208

#Disagreeable

Where are you Disagreeable? To find out, notice when you mentally deduct a “demerit” from your emotional bank account with family, friends, and co-workers.

If every disagreement feels like a withdrawal, you risk depleting these accounts and being left with grievances instead of a rich exchange of ideas, values, and resources.

Can someone disagree without you deducting a “demerit” from their account? Consider this: next time, practice saying, “That idea has merit; tell me more,” or, “I hadn’t thought of it that way before; let’s discuss,” to see what you can discover.

Engage in a new way. You have nothing to lose. It’s still a merit system, just more focus on the merits rather than the demerits.