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Tell The Truth With Love

6/1/2020

My daily practice is to visualize people and send love their way. I start with family and friends, and then in the stillness of the moment, I send love to the world, and I feel a deep connection with all. Then unexpectedly, the people who have betrayed my trust or betrayed my friends' trust prowl through my mind. Now what?

How to Know if You're Coachable

5/15/2020

If I asked you, "Are you coachable?" you would probably answer, "Yes, I am coachable!"

That's how I would respond. However, I noticed when I asked someone for coaching recently that I wasn't comfortable listening to critical feedback. I had to go through a litany of barriers

The Secret to Wellbeing

5/1/2020

Ten years ago, I was writing about gratitude and citing statistics from psychologists and sociologists that people with high levels of gratitude sleep better, handle transitions more effectively, and are more resilient in stressful situations. Gratitude is not a new idea. Even as far back as 54 B.C. Cicero, the philosopher and statesman,

Just Breathe

4/15/2020

When plans go astray, breathe.

When nothing stays on schedule, breathe.

When people get mad at you, breathe.

When life gets to you, breathe.

Wisdom of Acceptance & Cooperation

4/1/2020

Amid the coronavirus, people are asking me what I'm doing to stay peaceful and productive. It's not easy when the 24-hour news is your source for information while you are self-quarantined. The stories are informative but not always uplifting.

Energy Medicine

1/15/2020

As you settle into the year, it may be an excellent time to take some energy medicine. Doing so can help you to be more present and connected with your health and vitality.

Here's my energy medicine prescription:

Awaken Your Original Promise

12/15/2019

I regularly talk to successful people. I also talk to people who are struggling. They may not look like they have anything in common, but they do. I’ve noticed they both talk about wanting to live their life’s purpose and direct their thoughts to discover their chief aim in life. It seems that even people who have

Getting the Unarguable Facts

12/1/2019

If you’re around children for any time, you’ll notice that they ask the one-word question, ‘Why?’ often and intensely, as if it is an inalienable right.

They have a learner’s mind. It’s too bad and even sad that we get our learner’s mind trained out of us.

3 Ways to Never Give Up

11/15/2019

Every once in a while, I read something that rings an inner bell, and I can feel a surge of strength. I had two such encounters recently that both came in the form of advertisements! I didn’t have to use the products to know the wisdom in both statements.

The Power of Experience vs. Memory

11/1/2019

If you had to guess which is more potent in the pursuit of happiness, memories or experience, what would you say?

According to Pulitzer Prize winner Daniel Kahneman, an influential and inspiring psychologist, memories are more powerful than experience.

Follow Your Bliss

10/15/2019

If someone took your picture doing what you love to do, would they capture your bliss?

It is blissful to write these moments of insight to enlighten my own practice and to share them with you. Writing reveals my thoughts more than any other

7 Ways to Stop Negative Thinking

10/1/2019

My husband attended a meditation at a local Buddhist center. A student asked the teacher what he had to give up becoming a Buddhist. He answered in a way that was both thought-provoking and instructional. He said

Antidote for Problems that Persist:

9/15/2019

A friend of mine reminded me of something I said 20 years ago that still manages to inform her practice of peace today. I remember it well.

I was driving along listening to the radio, and a song came on that triggered a painful memory. I started to feel the regret and emotion of that moment in

An Inconvenient Obstacle

9/1/2019

Are obstacles ever convenient? They come at the wrong time when you're unprepared to deal with them, and the resounding sense that if you had just a little more time, everything would work out just fine. But the clock keeps ticking, and time spent wondering why you didn't prepare doesn't do anything to help you

Do It Right The First Time

8/15/2019

Do it right the first time exploded into my consciousness when a colleague and I were discussing mistakes that blocked personal performance. I made a comment about learning from mistakes, and he looked me in the eyes and said, “Paulette, I’m not interested in people learning from their mistakes, I want the

7 Practices to De-Stress

8/1/2019

According to the American Psychological Association, nearly half of all Americans report that stress hurts both their personal and professional life.

Stress is a common experience that we can all relate to, yet it is often easier to see in others than to recognize the build-up of pressure in ourselves until we are

Stop Relationship Fatigue

7/15/2019

The best practices in relationships are shared interests, acceptance, and making time to listen to each other.

When any of these practices fade, watch out for the big three that can start relationship fatigue!

3 Ways to Unleash Your Power

7/1/2019

I seem to have an uncanny ability to have people tell me what they want. I’ve noticed a big difference between those whose words declare what will happen, and others who doubt that what they want could move beyond a good idea.

What causes one to be different from

Finish What You Start

6/15/2019

When you don't complete or finish what you say you will do, you bring it from yesterday into today.

How do you know you're incomplete? You talk to yourself (and others) about what's unfinished, whether it's a conversation, project, business, relationship, or goal,

Declare New Goal

6/1/2019

What if you used any time of the year to declare what you want? Then write it down! What I write down, I focus on and achieve.

Read your goals each morning, and it will become clear what your real goals are and what fantasies are instead. You’ll

How To Have A Conversation

5/15/2019

Think about going through any day without having a conversation. It’s practically impossible. Yet it may be that having a meaningful conversation is becoming a lost art. You know you missed an opportunity to say what you mean when you leave a conversation, still talking about it to yourself and others.

Build On Your Strengths

5/1/2019

I've done a considerable amount of recruiting. Most recruiters ask about a candidate's weaknesses. I've never found this inquiry to reveal anything substantial because of 1. people don't want to tell their shortcomings, and 2. it doesn't create a foundation for growth.

Switch On Your Choice Maker

4/15/2019

I wonder why one day, I make fulfilling choices, and on another, I make poor choices.
 
I know the difference because effective choices leave no residue, and poor decisions leave a trail of "why did I," inconsistent with my bigger goals and commitments.

5 Wisdom Statement From Your Higher Self

4/1/2019

How do you know you're listening to your higher self?

There's no residue. No regrets and little to clean up!

After years of listening (and not listening), here are 5 of the wisdom statements that I've collected over the years.

Reach For The Truth

3/15/2019

Reaching for the TRUTH requires eliminating the habit of pretending. Finding out the truth can be an enormous undertaking because it confronts what you know and what you don't know. Pretending to know includes believing your self-limiting stories, excuses, justifications, and fantasies.