My daily practice is to visualize people and send love their way. I start with family and friends, and then in the stillness of the moment, I send love to the world, and I feel a deep connection with all. Then unexpectedly, the people who have betrayed my trust or betrayed my friends' trust prowl through my mind. Now what?
Ten years ago, I was writing about gratitude and citing statistics from psychologists and sociologists that people with high levels of gratitude sleep better, handle transitions more effectively, and are more resilient in stressful situations. Gratitude is not a new idea. Even as far back as 54 B.C. Cicero, the philosopher and statesman,
Amid the coronavirus, people are asking me what I'm doing to stay peaceful and productive. It's not easy when the 24-hour news is your source for information while you are self-quarantined. The stories are informative but not always uplifting.
I regularly talk to successful people. I also talk to people who are struggling. They may not look like they have anything in common, but they do. I’ve noticed they both talk about wanting to live their life’s purpose and direct their thoughts to discover their chief aim in life. It seems that even people who have
Every once in a while, I read something that rings an inner bell, and I can feel a surge of strength. I had two such encounters recently that both came in the form of advertisements! I didn’t have to use the products to know the wisdom in both statements.
My husband attended a meditation at a local Buddhist center. A student asked the teacher what he had to give up becoming a Buddhist. He answered in a way that was both thought-provoking and instructional. He said
Are obstacles ever convenient? They come at the wrong time when you're unprepared to deal with them, and the resounding sense that if you had just a little more time, everything would work out just fine. But the clock keeps ticking, and time spent wondering why you didn't prepare doesn't do anything to help you
Do it right the first time exploded into my consciousness when a colleague and I were discussing mistakes that blocked personal performance. I made a comment about learning from mistakes, and he looked me in the eyes and said, “Paulette, I’m not interested in people learning from their mistakes, I want the
I seem to have an uncanny ability to have people tell me what they want. I’ve noticed a big difference between those whose words declare what will happen, and others who doubt that what they want could move beyond a good idea.
Think about going through any day without having a conversation. It’s practically impossible. Yet it may be that having a meaningful conversation is becoming a lost art. You know you missed an opportunity to say what you mean when you leave a conversation, still talking about it to yourself and others.
I've done a considerable amount of recruiting. Most recruiters ask about a candidate's weaknesses. I've never found this inquiry to reveal anything substantial because of 1. people don't want to tell their shortcomings, and 2. it doesn't create a foundation for growth.
I wonder why one day, I make fulfilling choices, and on another, I make poor choices. I know the difference because effective choices leave no residue, and poor decisions leave a trail of "why did I," inconsistent with my bigger goals and commitments.
Reaching for the TRUTH requires eliminating the habit of pretending. Finding out the truth can be an enormous undertaking because it confronts what you know and what you don't know. Pretending to know includes believing your self-limiting stories, excuses, justifications, and fantasies.