My 40 something son called to wish me a happy birthday. I jokingly said I’m getting old! And he said, “Mom, I’m getting old, you’re getting ancient!”
He later amended that to ancient like antique, getting more valuable every day.
LOL. It cracked me up.
Maybe I am an antique. It is true that I observe the same old cycles that people go through, as the years advance.
Question why you’re doing what you’re doing
Think about making a drastic change
Wonder if fulfillment is possible
Endure the status quo until conditions change
Engage in “if only” conversations
If I’ve learned anything, in my ancient state, it’s to bring more awareness into our lives each day.
What can you pay attention to?
Your state of well-being!
If you’re not happy, then something is missing that is important to you.
What if you just tackled one area of your life where fulfillment is missing, and shine the flashlight of awareness into that area? What would be illuminated?
Ask someone who was in a situation that caused him or her no end of grief, why they didn’t take action. They’ll tell you they didn’t have an option. Then, with awareness, they’ll quickly amend that statement by saying they didn’t see any options at the time.
Consider the fulfillment factor. Identifying the source of your suffering allows you to see what you want that you don’t have. You may not realize that you can end your suffering by choosing what you have. Resistance doesn’t release suffering; acceptance opens your eyes to what’s possible.
You can make a change. It comes with risk (what if it doesn’t work!), and it may not be comfortable, but nonetheless it is an option.
Bring acceptance and awareness as the tools you use to look into making a change. The change may be as simple as just stopping what no longer serves your fulfillment. Then you’ll have the space in your life to discover what does.
Start your fulfillment practice this week by identifying one area where it’s missing. Make it the easy area, and don’t let yourself off the hook by saying fulfillment is missing in every area of your life. Just pick one! And take only one action this week.
Stop doing what doesn’t fulfill you.
This is harder than it sounds because we are such habitual people. Just because it’s a habit doesn’t mean it’s fulfilling. I promise you it will be a revealing process. You may give yourself every excuse in the book to keep doing what doesn’t fulfill you, but this is where awareness itself is the teacher. Look into those excuses and you will see the face of your suffering.
Let me hear what you learn about your fulfillment.
My love goes with you as you work with this Uplifting Moment.
June 13, 2011
by Nicole Mercolino filed under